Posted by: David M. Hazen | March 22, 2015

Longing to Belong

What joy can never be achieved yet is always available?

What work is it that gives energy and never drains it?

What truth is it that can not be described?

What can usually be seen only when your eyes are closed?


We are all swimming in the same ocean, we all have the same “soul,” we all have the same longing to belong. The emptiness that we sometimes feel acutely, sometimes diffusely, is that ocean, that soul, that place of belonging calling to us. It is more real than the chair upon which we sit, the food that we eat, the cars that we drive. The stuff of 3-D reality, including you and me, could not “exist” or be perceived by us unless it were held apart as uniquely individual clouds of whirling particles by some empty space that separates them from each other in specific “gluey relationships.”

The stuff of relationship is more real, more important, than the physical reality that appears as a result of those relations, and that is the ocean in which we all swim. There is no vacuum of nothingness between you and me, there is a swirling vortex of connection. We can’t measure it, see it or touch it, and yet sometimes we can experience it as more real than our bodies. It’s the feeling of belonging to the ocean, and it can bring tears to our eyes because we regret all the time we’ve wasted in avoiding its terrible beauty, all because someone told us we didn’t deserve it.

A culture of belonging contains an unshakable peace, joy, and cheerfulness.

Posted by: David M. Hazen | March 18, 2015

Do we have a problem?


We need to realize that cooperation and mutual respect are better strategies for security and survival than competition and mutual destruction. We live in a time of great crisis and great fear. We commonly lack the skills to make a friend from an enemy, so enemies multiply endlessly, and we cower or we explode. The greatest war, the greatest terror and enemy that we have to face is within ourselves, from the President to the members of Congress, to the tormented student and the abused child. There is a very dark and deep abyss within the soul of America. The illness, the cancer, of violent habits of thoughts, words and actions which are tearing our communities apart every day is destroying our trust in human values and decency, and building a metaphoric time bomb of cataclysmic proportions.

Let us take the crucial first step, let us move forward to end this insanity, let’s admit we have a problem. Then we can move ahead, one step at a time.

Step 1: Admit the problem (p. 55-56, Love Always Wins, ©2011 David M. Hazen). Available at Amazon as an e-book or paperback.

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