I am a recovering violent person. My childhood was deeply affected by physical and emotional abuse and the terror of potential nuclear war.
I have been recovering from a lifestyle of addiction since 1985 and I view the current nosedive into control, domination and violence as a necessary suicidal precursor for a macro-scale recovery process. I am here to map that process and provide the tools for individuals to securely shift their internal operating system to one that is based in acceptance, empowerment and partnership.
I see the abuse of self and others as a culturally-reinforced, addictive behavior and that the personal lifestyle changes necessary for the world to recover from its addiction to violence can also be culturally reinforced. I believe that humanity is spiraling upward in knowledge and abilities that will promote, worldwide, the healthy growth and development of children; prosperity and safety for adults; as well as cooperative learning and problem-solving. Such genius will flower that sometime in the future as we look back at the state of humanity that we are in now, it will seem as if we were like the dodo, and we will wonder why and how we were saved from extinction.
I have been influenced by studies of whole-system design-planning, perception psychology and mysticism, as well as my experience as a hospice volunteer, chemical dependency counselor, public school and college teacher, Oregon Coordinator of the campaign for a US Department of Peace and member of the board of The Peace Alliance. I’m an advocate for Eugene citizens to identify themselves as a Peace Team and a Compassionate Action Network.
My activism has resulted in two PeaceBuilder Awards, recognition as an Advisor to the International Cities of Peace, Certified Oregon Change Agent by Governor Kitzhaber and Notable Alumnus of Achievement by the University of Minnesota.
I authored “Love Always Wins: Hope for Healing the Epidemic of Violence” in 2012 and “The Work of Love: Re-discovering Connection and Belonging” in 2017.
My spirituality is inspired by Christian humanist writers and includes practices from Sufi and Buddhist traditions. What I am sure of today is that I cannot will myself to be completely whole, yet sharing my partial grasp upon that wholeness with others will most likely result in all of us discovering wholeness together.
Above all else, I wish to protect the future of my two sons, Michael and Chris, my three grand-daughters, Saoirse, Shaye and Paige, and all the children of the world.
David & Valerie, 25th Wedding Anniversary, August 2007
Lynx, Saoirse and Michael, Sept. 2018
Chris, Shaye, Paige & Cindy